“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths.
When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”
– Arnold Schwarzenegger
I’m Andrew Nino, life coach for men. I help men create more Love, Purpose, and Freedom in their lives. And I want to share my journey with you. I didn’t have a father who showed me how to be a truly grounded man in this world. Yes, I could change a tire, pound a beer, and ask a girl on a date. But being a good man isn’t about those things. My parents divorced when I was eleven, but my dad emotionally checked out years prior. I didn’t know how to navigate the world as a man – make confident decisions, take ownership of my actions, lead, be grounded, embrace challenges/failures, express my feelings, set boundaries, provide for and protect my loved ones. I was navigating the world without any real guidance. This led me to a relationship with a woman who couldn’t trust me to take care of myself, let alone the both of us. I was a weak man, sacrificing my values and purpose to make her happy and continuing this practice in other areas of my life. As a man, I didn’t show up or own my side of the relationship; I was a man with no values, mission, or purpose.
My lifestyle during the relationship was lacking all traces of self-love, and I can’t give what I don’t have. My life consisted of heavy drinking, minimal exercise, excessive porn use, limited socializing, and little adventure. I spent most of my time secluded perusing the Internet. Six years into the relationship (we were legally married for the last three years), my partner told me that our relationship wasn’t going in the direction she wanted. This hit me like a punch to the gut; just completely unexpected. I didn’t know what to do, so I tried pleading, changing my behaviors, buying her gifts; I even pretended to not love her anymore.
The first day after the breakup, I struggled to get through work. I was shaking, pacing, highly anxious. I couldn’t eat, drink or sit still. I was a mess. It truly felt like I was dying. I texted her so many times that day trying to make sense of everything, trying to get a clear explanation. It was pointless. She had moved on. Not too long after that I began my journey towards personal development. I started reading books, listening to podcasts, going to seminars, getting coaching, and applying the knowledge I was learning. I was going out, being social, getting healthy, and trying to start life over again.
But life is never that easy. During the relationship, I neglected my health by only doing the bare minimum to treat certain ailments. Four months after the breakup, that neglect resulted in a rash that covered my face, arms, and legs. I had pus-filled boils bursting on my face! I was out of work for three weeks, required by doctors to stay home and rest. I forgot to mention, my car’s transmission went out during this time. Things were miserable. I was so embarrassed to go outside that I stayed home and felt sorry for myself. But time spent alone after a breakup is a dangerous place. During this time, I discovered my ex, who just broke up with me four months earlier, was already in a new relationship. I fell into a deep depression; something I had never experienced before.
But that’s where support came in. I turned back to my personal development community, and looked to friends and family to help me navigate through those dark times. My health improved, I fixed my car, and I started taking action to improve my life. Slowly and gradually my life began to improve, and I finally found purpose and meaning in my life. I was eating healthy, exercising regularly, working on my social skills, reading book after book, attending seminars, joining masterminds, and learning from people who were where I wanted to be in life.
I learned amazing things in my journey, and I want to share it. Because I know what it’s like to try and weather life’s obstacles alone. It’s damn hard.
That’s why I’m here. I don’t want you to make the same mistakes I made. And I don’t want you to have to go through this alone.
Send me a message, and we’ll have a complimentary 60-minute, powerful conversation to discuss how we can bring out the most powerful version of yourself.