We all do it, but many of us aren’t aware of it.

My mentor recently gave me the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. It introduced me to the concept of “upper limit problems”– the limits that prevent us from being happy, fulfilled, and successful. The concept is simple: we have self-sabotaging behaviors that keep us from living the lives we want, and these behaviors stem from our beliefs and subconscious (sometimes conscious too).

I’ve seen self-sabotage happen within me, and I’ve seen it occur in other people. And it happens in all areas of life: business, health, finances, relationships, and personal development.

The self-sabotage comes in a variety of forms: sickness/illness, worrying, hiding, dropping the ball, or even picking fights.

Here’s how to fix it.


When we’re aware of our upper limit problems, we’re able to push through the barriers that keep us from staying stuck.

A question is a great place to start. Ask yourself, “What positive thing is trying to come into being?” Sometimes the right question is all we need to bring awareness to the situation.

My Upper Limit Problems

It’s a constant battle to move beyond my own upper limit problems.

When I’m succeeding financially or in business, I tend to procrastinate and hide more.

When my romantic relationships are going well, I pick fights over meaningless bullshit.

When my health or personal development goals are reached, my motivation and drive take a dive.

Lately, it’s affected my productivity in building my business and generating content. And a recent reminder helped me recognize that it’s all stemming from my subconscious. I know I’m capable of overcoming these things.

Hendricks encourages the following mantra to combat upper limit problems:

“I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, and I inspire those around me to do the same.”

Upper limit problems don’t ever go away. We’ll always be dealing with them one way or the other. But we can expand them. It takes awareness and the ability to receive the fruits of our labor.

So what upper limit problems are you facing?

What self-sabotaging practices are you incurring on yourself?

Share your comments below.