There is so much power through living in the present moment. But in today’s society, it’s easy to get distracted and caught up in other things.
Sometimes we get caught up in our thoughts.
Sometimes we get caught up in what’s going to happen tomorrow.
Sometimes we focus on things from the past.
We’ve all experienced traumatic moments in our lives – from childhood to the present moment. But the past doesn’t make up who we are as individuals.
Your past experiences don’t determine who you are.
If you failed at a relationship, you’re NOT a failure.
If you got picked on as a kid, you’re NOT a loser.
If you got fired from a job, you’re NOT incompetent.
There are lessons that can be extracted from the past, but to relive those moments as if they make up your identity doesn’t serve you.
And living in the past doesn’t have to be negative. It can be the glory days of high school when you were on top of the world. The past can be that relationship that was so awesome that no relationship could ever live up to it.
You don’t need to replay these stories in your head.
They don’t serve you.
Lessons From College
I know firsthand what it feels like to take the past and carry it with me in my day-to-day life. I remember feeling unworthy during my time in college. I went to a prestigious liberal arts school in Southern California, and I frequently felt unqualified to go there. And that manifested in the way I showed up in my classes and in my work – I half-assed most of my way through school.
One particular incident comes to mind: I remember giving presentation during a class my freshman year. I was in the middle of my presentation when my professor stopped me and asked, “Well, what’s your point?” I remember feeling flushed, embarrassed and downright stupid. That moment, that question stuck with me for years.
I felt intellectually inadequate, and I used that moment as validation to support my insecurities.
But this moment doesn’t make me a stupid person. The truth was I didn’t prepare for that presentation, or maybe I needed to ask for support on topics I didn’t fully understand. But that moment doesn’t shape who I am today.
So why did I carry it with me all those years after I graduated from college?
I allowed it to shape my identity.
But the truth was it wasn’t me.
Caught In Thought
This is something I lived with for many years of my life. In conversation, I couldn’t give 100% of my awareness and attention to the person in front of me. It wasn’t something I practiced.
And I knew people could sense it.
The feminine energy craves presence to feel safe. The feminine energy wants to feel seen, heard, and understood. And to do that, you have to be 100% present and in the moment.
How many times have you had to ask “Wait, what did you say?” to someone because you were thinking about something else mid-conversation?
That’s the simplest way to do it. Staying in the moment is about staying within your body, getting out of your head, and noticing the minute details of your surroundings.
Meditation is a good practice to maintain presence in your everyday life.
Whenever I get in my head, sometimes I’ll revert to my meditation practices, or I’ll take five deep breaths – breaths where I breathe into my belly.
Try this exercise right now. Take 3-5 deep breaths into the belly.
How do you feel?
Are you present and in the moment?