This past weekend, my Meetup group had a discussion on impermanence. We talked about the importance of living like your dying; giving zero fucks of what anyone thinks when it comes to living with purpose and passion. We should be making the most of your time on this planet.

Playing A Little Game

At the end of our meeting, we played a game. It goes like this:

Imagine you died at this very moment. (It’s kind of hard to go there, huh?) What would be your three greatest regrets in life?

At first, I thought I was in the clear. It was pretty difficult to come up with answers because I’m doing or have done so many things that I wanted to do. But as the other men in the group shared, some stuff came up for me. Here’s what I came up with upon further reflection after the Meetup.

  1. Spend more time with those who love me the most.
  2. Spend two weeks alone in nature (I used to be indifferent about nature, but I want to experience nature alone on my own terms with my new view on life).
  3. Love someone with my whole heart.

The first two are self-explanatory, but the last one might need some clarification. As I briefly mentioned in my last post about my conversation with my father, I learned at an early age that fully loving and being vulnerable leads to pain. This was due to my father’s emotional abandonment when I was 8 years old. I’ve been healing that part of myself for the past year, but the healing is ongoing. I’m still working on loving fully and unconditionally; allowing myself to be vulnerable to the potential pain of abandonment. It likely won’t happen, but I don’t know that for certain. And it’s scary not knowing.

Taking Action

I reflected on the things that I’m currently pursuing: my purpose, my business , my goal to impact as many men as possible, my desire to be the best man I can be. I’ve committed to things that are challenging and, at times, scary. But the things I’d regret if I died right now…I’m grateful I brought awareness to them.

If I can dedicate a little more time to those things right now, what would that look like?

  1. Call three family members this week, catch up, and say how grateful I am for their love and support.
  2. Go to the park this weekend and spend two hours alone with no cell phone. Just myself and nature.
  3. Continue my self-love practices and open up more with those closest to me. Share my fears, emotions, and dreams from a vulnerable place. There’s always the possibility of being judged or hurt, but bearing deep trust in them is such a gift to give.

Play Along

I invite you to play the game. Really try to reflect on your three biggest regrets if you died right now? What would they be? What can you do today to get closer to achieving those goals?

Life is a fucking gift, and there’s no knowing how long our journey will last. Death doesn’t give a fuck if we live fully or half-assed.

So do the things that light you up.

Spend time with the people you care about the most.

Open your heart and love fully.

Live like you’re dying.

Seriously.  Do it now.